Then, why do we keep going back to our exes?
Walfish says that people return to an ex to stop feeling so lonely, and Martinez explains that one of the main reasons people return to exes is fear. Martinez says when someone returns to an ex, it can be that "there's still something left unresolved, or some additional lesson they need to learn in that relationship."
Similarly, why do we stay in toxic relationships? “We want to be loved, and we're afraid to be alone.” Maybe we're lonely. A lot of us don't want to be alone, so we stay in a toxic relationship. We want to be loved, and we're afraid to be alone, and somehow, we think being in this kind of relationship is better than being single and lonely.
People also ask, how do I stop going back to a toxic relationship?
Here are some ideas on staying strong—and staying away—when you're tempted to get back together:
- Acknowledge the loss.
- Ride the waves of grief.
- Experience the longing.
- Be here now.
- Avoid alcohol and other drugs.
- Forgive yourself.
Should I let a toxic person back in?
If you feel yourself carrying burdens, and if something (or someone) isn't making you happy, you need to let go and move on. It might sound a little harsh, but it's true and following this rule will make you approximately 1000% happier, trust me.
